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Overcoming Bullying: From Bullied Boy to Brave Performer
Published: November 1, 2025
Category: Personal Journey
I spent years overcoming bullying long before I ever found the courage to stand on a stage.
I didn’t grow up dreaming of applause or red carpets.
I grew up trying to stay invisible.
From as young as five, I was branded with names I didn’t even understand — fairy, poof, run-boy.
Words meant to shame me for simply existing, long before I knew what any of them meant.
The cruelty didn’t just come from other children.
Sometimes the teachers — the very people meant to protect me — would smirk, turn away, or even laugh as the bullying unfolded.
That betrayal cut deeper than any insult. It taught me that I wasn’t worth defending.
I didn’t know what “being different” meant back then.
I didn’t know I was gay. I didn’t have language for identity — only for punishment.
So I learned how to shrink.
How to hide in corners.
How to make myself small in hallways.
I shut down pieces of myself, bit by bit, because silence felt safer than attention.
It wasn’t just school plays or choir songs that I walked away from.
I once turned down a life-changing offer — a place at the Yehudi Menuhin School, where I was told I had the talent to become a composer.
I was nine or ten years old, and my parents were ready to move mountains for me.
But the idea of being even further away from safety terrified me.
I didn’t say no because I didn’t want the dream.
I said no because I was still trying not to be seen.
But here’s the truth I learned much later: bullies don’t disappear just because you dim your own light.
They don’t stop hurting you just because you stop trying to shine.
I carried that silence into adulthood — buried under every “I’m fine,” every “Other people are better than me,” every time I dismissed a dream before it had a chance to live.
Yet something quiet inside me survived.
The part of me that loved stories, music, performance — it waited.
Acting didn’t magically erase what happened to me, but it gave me something I had never really had before: a voice that couldn’t be talked over.
A space where emotion was allowed instead of mocked.
A way to reclaim confidence after years of surviving in silence.
Acting didn’t just give me a voice — it became how I rebuilt the confidence I had lost.
It taught me that the world doesn’t need a quieter version of who we are.
It needs the version that finally stops apologising.
I used to believe invisibility was safety.
I thought that shrinking myself would somehow keep me from being hurt.
But silence was never safety — it was only a different kind of cage.
Performance didn’t heal every wound, but it gave me a way to breathe again — a way to speak from the place where I once hid.
If you are someone still carrying the echo of words that were never yours to hold, I want you to know this:
You are not late.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
One day, the spotlight won’t feel like exposure — it will feel like arrival.
And when that day comes, you won’t be performing for applause.
You’ll be performing for the child you once were — the one who never stopped hoping you’d make it this far.
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No one should have to silence their own voice to survive — and if this reached you at the right moment, you’ve already proven something important:
You’re not alone. And your voice matters too.
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